Kink of the month: D is for Dominatrix

Kink is becoming more and more mainstream, you can now buy fetish gear direct on the high street. Yet the world of Kink is complicated. Kink communities tend to have their own terms and definitions, which can leave you completely baffled. So here at Killing Kittens, we have decided to explore the Kink Alphabet, a month at a time.

D is for Dominatrix

A Dominatrix, (Domme or Mistress), is a female who takes the dominant role in a BDSM relationship, such as bondage, sadism, and masochism. The Domme typically feeds sexual fantasies about being dominated.

A common form of address for a submissive to a dominatrix is “mistress”, “ma’am”, “domina” or “maîtresse”. A dominatrix does not only necessarily dominate males, but can have male or female submissives.

A dominatrix may or may not engage in sex with her submissive. There are many Professional Dommes, who offer the sensation of someone being in control without the aspect of sex. A Dominatrix role does not always involve physical pain towards her submissive. The domination can be verbal, involving humiliation and servitude.

The term “domme” is a coined pseudo-French female variation of the slang dom. It stems from the Latin words “dominus” = master, “domina” = mistress. The pronunciation is identical to the term “dom”, by analogy to one-syllable French-derived words like femme or blonde. The stereotypical image of a Domme is a fierce woman, dressed in black, but this is not always the case, Dominatrixes can be normal women (with an edge).

While some people become dominatrixes and work with clients professionally, you may just want to roleplay being a dominatrix for fun. In this case, you can act out a fantasy role for you and your partner’s mutual pleasure. Proper behavior, communication, and the procedure are incredibly crucial not only in fostering a nurturing relationship, but also to avoid any physical or psychological trauma in either party.

 

Hello, I am Kitten T the Editor of #itsakittensworld, passionate about sexual liberation and anything which encourages female sexual empowerment. I Love horses! You can follow me on Twitter for my latest views on the world of KK

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